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Imortace of fun in daiIy IIife

By: muky

It's my experience that the couple that has fun together has a much better chance of staying together.

Very few of the couples that I coach in my office or on the phone are regularly having fun. Life has gotten in the way, and fun is the last thing they are thinking of.

No room for fun

Most couples are caught up in what I call GARR - the Great American Rinse and Repeat. It goes something like this: Get up in the morning, get the kids off to school and you to work. Work all day, come home, have dinner, get ready for the next day, get the kids to bed, watch TV, fall asleep. Get up and do it all again.

This schedule leaves little room for fun.

Without the stress relief of having fun and enjoying each other, it becomes all to easy to irritate each other, bicker, and eventually become strangers.

How to have fun again

Getting back to having fun is not all that hard, it just takes some discipline.

Here's what I do with couples in my coaching practice:

1. Each person makes a list of what each remembers they used to do for fun.

2. Each person makes a list of what they would like to do for fun.

3. The couple merges their lists.

4. The couple chooses five things they would like to do for fun.

5. Schedule one thing and do it. Then another, and another, and another.

Lack of Fun

I guess it could be said that the couple that laughs and plays together stays together. It's hard to grow apart when you are laughing and having fun together.

Lack of fun is a serious type of relationship trouble, and is one sure to drain the life out of even the best of relationships.

We all tend to get caught up in the daily grind of jobs and bills and kids and chores, etc. When this happens, getting stuck in a rut and simply forgetting about having fun as a couple is all too frequently the result.

I've said this before and I'll say it often because I think we need reminding: the only difference between a rut and a grave is the dimensions.

How to have fun again

If you find yourself in this un-fun situation in your love relationship, here is a simple way to begin to repair the situation.

I'm inviting each of you to write down 10 different things that you either once did for fun, would like to do for fun, or both.

Then each week, pick one item from the list and commit the time to doing it together.

I know that sounds so simple. I guess I could make it more complicated for you, but why?